Dropping Off Toddlers

A routine in the morning helps create predictability and can ease the anxiety that comes with transitions. Morning goodbyes can be difficult for some children, and even some parents. Our attitude as parent's can play a significant role in in our child's outlook and approach to starting school.  Modeling confidence and positive attitude during morning drop can really have a positive impact in the success of daily goodbyes.  And remember, this too shall pass. Separation anxiety is a phase, it's perfectly natural, and it will eventually pass.

A few tips.... 

Trust your child's teacher: 

Your child is our priority and we want them to have a successful transition and a great experience with school. We have a toolbox of ideas and strategies to help settle a child who is feeling upset and could involve anything from a gentle hug to pairing them up with another friend. If you feel like you are struggling with goodbyes, reach out and we can trouble shoot together. Also, as soon you give me the sign that you are ready to go, I am available to step in and redirect your child.  

Be sure to make goodbyes quick and positive: 

This may sound easy to say, I know, but can often be the most difficult thing to do.  For example, giving your child one more minute can often just prolong the inevitable and build anxiety in your child. The best thing you can do is give your child a hug and a kiss and say "I Love You, I will be back for you," turn and walk away. This reassures your child that you will be back soon and also shows the child that you are comfortable, and they can be too. 

Planning a goodbye routine for them: 

Children do crave routines and parents who establish a consistent goodbye routine have better luck with successful goodbyes.  You can try to use a secret saying, with your child or a secret hand gesture. Some parents give their child a kiss on the forehead or offer a reassuring thumbs-up or r b noses with their child.  This way, you're giving your child something to count on, and he/she will likely go to school with more confidence. That special moment between the two of you is a great way to start the day and provide that sense of reassurance.  

Always try to be on time: 

Arriving late can often trigger separation anxiety. The interruption can also be upsetting to the children in the class who have already begun their day. Make sure to give yourself plenty of time in morning.  Some children can get anxious/upset when feeling rushed so try to allow for extra time in the morning to get ready. It's equally important to be punctual when picking up your child. Make sure you are here on time. An inconsistent pick up time can cause even more anxiety during the morning drop off because of the unpredictability of the schedule. 

Ms. Nadia, Cricket Teacher